Cloudy1′s Blog
Just another WordPress.com weblogPlaying the game or just compromising? – 16 April 2009
It’s funny how some people are of the opinion that if you “play the game” then you are lying to yourself or are somehow weak of character as you are defending your beliefs or standing up to your boss/parents/friends/authorities* (*delete as appropriate). Yet we all compromise to fit in with the environment or communities we are involved in. Personally I feel that in most parts of our lives we do have to play the game in order to get on. In a work situation there are probably more occurrences as we have to comply with regulations and company policies but why shouldn’t we? We choose to work there, to be paid for our work, granted there may be times when we completely disagree with the decisions made but we can put our views across to our superiors and if we are still not happy with the way things are going we have the right to leave! Compromise is a nicer way of saying “playing the game” as we can decide what we can live with and what we can’t. If the community we work in is suffocating us we have a choice. The only times when this choice becomes not so cut and dry is when other community pressures impact our decision, such as the community better known as our family. In the family community we have a lot of different pressures being placed on us. A community whose membership starts the day we are born and one that has a huge impact and influence on how we become who we are. But do we play the game in our family? I suppose we do when we decide something isn’t worth arguing over but do we not also push the boundaries too? We seem to think that because there is unconditional love from our relatives that we can do anything and still be a part of this loving community. I think we would not push so much in the communities we have chosen to be a part of in case we are shunned by the very people we want to be linked to. We make rules by which we live and it seems to me that these rules will change depending on which environment we are in, we will behave in different ways when we are with different people all in the name of belonging but this isn’t necessarily a bad thing.
Maybe it’s just part of the game we call life!
Good points….”after all all the world is a stage and we are merely players!”